What could be difficult about the festive season when for many it is the first opportunity to stop the daily grind and relax?
People can feel especially lonely around this time of year. This may be due to a relationship break-up, no family or difficult family dynamics, few friends and the media hype about it being a joyous time.
Without the structure and routine of work we suddenly have time to think and feel. Issues we have avoided all year may now be front of mind.
Family obligations can mean navigating difficult relationships.
Tricky social situations can be exacerbated by alcohol and end of year stress.
People in our support network may be away or busy.
Healthy coping
Be mindful that the holiday season is not always fun and be aware of vulnerabilities you may have with certain family members.
Try to have realistic expectations. If we approach certain functions expecting that people will suddenly treat us differently we may be disappointed and wonder “Why doesn’t anyone care?” or “I try so hard, why doesn’t anyone else?”
If you usually exercise, keep up some form of physical activity over the break. This can help with stress levels and anxiety.
Try to balance the time spent with difficult people by spending time with those who are non-critical, supportive and encouraging.
If you don’t have anything planned for the “big” occasions like Christmas Day and New Year’s Eve, plan to be with others or else perhaps have a short break away.
If you feel overwhelmed and find you need support over the holiday period, counselling may help provide perspective. The process may also help you reflect on changes you would like for the new year in yourself, your relationships and life in general.